4 ways to be clear with yourself to find a lasting relationship.

So many times people get hurt in relationships because they expect something from someone else that they are not clear about within themselves. 

Over the years I learned, tweaked, retweaked, and finally came up with these 4 main "I must" for all types of relationships.

1. "I must" be aware within the first two weeks.

I know things happen. But I also know what I want. people show their true colors within the first couple of weeks if you take nothing else from this article remember this how it begins is how it will continue . 

If you are giving all of you its is only fair that you expect that back in return. 

Yes I'm sure some of you are gasping right now saying how dare she. Well that's right I dared. 

Most of the time the way someone acts when you first meet, is then being on their best behavior. Look closely, they are still showing you a glimpse of themselves. 

Pay attention!! The way something begins is the way it will continue.  If in a few weeks of the new relationship, the person is not a acknowledging your needs, putting your needs down, always talking about themselves, constantly late, not very nice to other people, whatever it maybe, you can guarantee this is who they truly are.

If you don't like the way someone is treating you... tell them! If they cannot respect that, then it's time to rethink what you want.  Really... rethink what you want.

The longer you accept bad behavior, the harder it is to leave.

2. "I must" trust your intuition.

We all have it! We just don't listen to it enough to know it.

It's that thought in our head, that pain in her stomach, it's the car keys that are lost, so you don't rush out of the house and get in the accident. 

Use it! Trust it! Acknowledge it!

If something doesn't feel right, then it's not right. 

You were the only person that knows your body and if you don't know your body, I suggest you start learning about it.  

The only way you'll end up in a great relationship is knowing who you are, what you want and what is inside of you.

3. "I must" Show people how you want to be treated.

When I meet someone I show them exactly how I want them to respect me.  When I talk to someone, I look in their eyes, my head is held high, I am confident in who I am and what I believe in.  

Recognize your walk, recognize how you connect with people. Do you walk with your head high, do you acknowledge someone else? 

If you can't do this, then you can't expect it back.

"You don't know what you want until you acknowledge what you need."

If you show up confident, secure, aware of your "self", you are less likely to attract the energy of someone that is insecure about themselves.

Show people who you are! What you want! What you expect and you will get that.

Do not read this the wrong way, do not walk around acting like the big "B" word. 

I go to my local's grocery store every day yes I'm one of those people I like everything fresh and I walk in the same way I walk into a friend's house, my home, a doctors office, a restaurant. A woman that worked there approached me and said " I watch you come in every day and I tell my coworker look at her, I wish I could be as confident as you are." I had no idea who this woman was, but you see, I show the world who I am without saying a word. 

4. "I must" be honest on why you have this person in your life.

If you don't like the way someone is treating, talking or acting towards me. I tell them to stop and if they continue the unwanted behavior, I leave. If I'm not receiving what's for my highest good, then I don't want that in my life.

So many times I hear about abuse in a  relationship. Physical, mental, emotional. Let's be real...that most certainly did not start on the first date. 

This was something that you accepted, when you allowed it. 

So be honest. Why do you want this person in your life?

I don't know, that is not a good answer. You know the answer, it is just to difficult to acknowledge it.

If you need any redirection and want to learn more about me and my services, visit my website at www.Lotuswoodjourney.com 

We can get started finding the best version of yourself so you can find abundance, love & happiness.

Namaste my friends.


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